How was your 2021? Did you achieve all your goals and new year’s resolutions? Today, we will be talking about how to have a success mindset and commit to achieving your goals faster!
It might sound weird, but did you know that you don’t necessarily need to change your goals every year just because you did not achieve them in the past years?
In the previous blog, we talked about creating the life you want through empowerment, mindset mastery, and manifesting abundance. We also talked about setting your goals, creating a vision, and the steps you can take to make the best of this year and get yourself ready to receive abundance.
Brace yourself and read until the end because this time, I will be sharing powerful tips on how you can keep that success mindset, and not only work for your goals, but to make your goals work for you!
Tony Robbins said, “One reason so few of us achieve what we truly want is that we never direct our focus; we never concentrate our power. Most people dabble their way through life, never deciding to master anything in particular.”
Are you a dabbler?
Dabblers engage into new business ideas or new opportunities but when faced with challenges or inconvenience, they literally just lose it. They lose focus and interest leading them to just STOP.
Many of us have big dreams and awesome goals and we get so excited about it that we forget to plan and strategize. We tend to forget about the not so good side of things like the early mornings, the commitment, the distractions and the sacrifices that we need to make in order for us to achieve our goals. The challenges and the inconveniences that we might face along the way.
The sad part is, when we fail to achieve that goal, we just dump it over and think of another goal without evaluating what went wrong, what we lack, what we could have done better, etc. Some people just give up without realising their full potential and true greatness.
These are the things that I want for all of you:
- To become empowered
- To have an abundant life
- To be successful
- To master your mindset and become the best version of yourself
Tony Robbins also said, “New year equals new life! Decide today who you will become, what you will give, and how you will live’’.
When you look back, do you think you’re still the same person from 5,10, or 15 years ago?
Think of the Chinese bamboo tree story. You spend years nourishing it but you won’t see results right away. Life is like that. There’s no such thing as overnight success. Even the most successful people went through tough times but they stayed committed to their vision. We reach our goals through vision, patience and perseverance. The greatest thing of all is the growth that happens within the individuals on the path.
Over the years, I have learned and realised what we really need to reach our goals:
Be committed to your goal and believe in your vision. Assess yourself and who you really want to be 5 or 10 years from now and keep in mind that all those little steps contribute to your vision. Be intentional with your actions and behaviour.
Be consistent instead of constant. There’s nothing wrong with putting in extra hours and working really hard for your goals but do not forget to keep a balance so you can have stamina and not lose your drive along the way. As I have mentioned earlier, do not work for your goals but make your goals work for you. You can still live a happy life while reaching for your goals. You just really need to keep that success mindset.
Plan ahead. As Benjamin Franklin puts it, “If you fail to plan, you are planning to fail.” Whether you are a public speaker, a life coach, an entrepreneur, a parent, or a partner, planning is important. If you resist planning, you are setting yourself up for failure. I understand that it could be overwhelming at times but remember, it’s your vision that’s at stake here. You are creating the life you want and without planning, you are wasting a lot of resources. Your time, effort, energy and money. Sit down, put that music on, and just start writing and ask yourself these questions:
- What would I see, hear, or touch?
- What would I smell or taste?
- What would I do?
- Where would I go?
- How many lives would my vision impact?
- What would I be proud of?
- When do I want to experience these?
Have an accountability partner. Now that you have mapped out your strategies and how you will achieve your vision, it is important to have someone that you are accountable to beyond yourself. If you can have a mentor or a coach, that would be fantastic. They don’t have a personal agenda with your business or relationship so they can be objective and clear. Or if you have a friend who also has a business and is going through the same journey with you, maybe you can pair up and be each other’s accountability partner. Reflect on these questions when choosing your accountability partner:
- Who are they?
- How are they showing up?
- What’s their success, commitment, and consistency like?
- Do they inspire you?
- Can you lift each other up during down days?
- Can you celebrate each other’s successes?
Here’s another beautiful quote from Tony Robbins, “If you want to be successful, find someone who has achieved the results you want and copy what they do and you’ll achieve the same results.”
Modelling behaviour is powerful. If you can find someone that shares the same values and vision with you, connect with that person. It could be a leader, an entrepreneur, or a coach. If you cannot connect with them directly, you can watch them on Youtube or buy their book. Follow their social media accounts and make them a part of your day. Learn from their journey.
Jim Rohn said, “You are the average of the five people you are in most contact with.”
A couple of years ago, I heard this amazing speaker in one of the events that I attended. His name is Dr. Ro. He literally blew my mind away and when his Turning Point event was advertised, I literally told myself that I needed to be there no matter what it takes. At the time, I was financially challenged and I was making ends meet. To make things worse, my father passed on. It was a really difficult time for me. But with the urge to create my vision and achieve personal growth and development, I showed up at Dr. Ro’s event 12 days after my father passed on. There was something within me that told me I should be there. I was picked to go up on stage and his intervention totally changed my perspective. He’s an incredible speaker and I really gained a lot from him. Back then, I couldn’t join his coaching programme even if I wanted to because I was broke. But I told myself that I will find a way.
Then I remembered Malcolm Gladwell’s book, Outliers. He said that there are exceptional circumstances and opportunities available to people who dedicated their 10,000 hours to developing their skill.
To make a long story short, I volunteered. I spent many hours tidying up the venue, picking up the litter, handing out pens to participants. I offered to help out in whatever way I can. I dedicated myself, showed up, and made myself valuable. After some time, they invited me to work within the team internally and helped with the admin work as well as assisting them in organising events. They even assigned me to lead the communications department since they were aware that I was studying to be a coach and advancing my skills. I focused on learning and growing and not on money because I believe that, “Personal development and inner growth is your greatest wealth and asset.”
This experience reminds me so much about Jeff Olson’s book, “The Slight Edge”. It’s a powerful book that talks about how our little steps contribute to how our life unfolds and how those small actions turn into massive success. What we do, who we surround ourselves with, the way we think, our commitment and discipline. All these will be a part of your success story.
I would like to leave you with this beautiful quote from Henry David Thoreau, “If one advances confidently in the direction of his dreams, and endeavours to live the life which he has imagined, he will meet with a success unexpected in common hours.”
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